Loneliness vs Aloneness
Prof. Babar Jamil
6/15/20261 min read
Loneliness is the symptom of being separated from the existence. We feel lonely because we are not connected with existence. We have falsely created our own separate identities with the help of thoughts and emotions. We falsely believe that we have our own individual lives without realizing that there is only one life. There cannot be more than one life. Only a single life is available to us but out of ignorance we tend to squeez it through our narrowed identities. Such actions then generate the feelings of loneliness. We feel incomplete as if something is missing. We try in vain one and thousands ways to get rid of this painful feeling but at the end find ourselves to be trapped. We watch movies, visit places, indulge ourselves with different relations but still find that loneliness does not go away. It constantly remains there whether we are with or without somebody. Howvere the day we realize that life is one and whole and we are not different from it then we taste the state of aloneness. Then we are no more lonely. There is no more excurciating pain of loneliness but a serence joy and peace coming out of it. It is not something rigid or divisive state, rather it is an inclusive one. It does not mean that we become reclusive in order to be alone. The state of aloneness does not depend on being in the company of someone or not. It is the realization that we are very part of the existence. We were never separated from it. We were always one and whole. It is just out of our ignorance that we falsely believe otherwise. There is nothing to do to get rid of painful state of loneliness. We just need to realize the reason behind such state. There is no loneliness in life. There is only life that is all alone. In order to get rid of our lonely states, we need to go back to life. It is only life which will help us discard the killing burden of loneliness, not our ignorant and petty approaches.